You know the rest of that saying, right?
“To err is human, to forgive divine.”
I like to take that admirable adage a few steps further and say that admitting one’s mistakes, owning up to a shortcoming or just one bad moment is equally, if not more, important than forgiveness.
We all screw up, hence the above quote—we are all human beings so we are expected, at times, to do things poorly, say things in anger, misinterpret an emotion, or just plain boot a grounder at Fenway Park.
Mike’s keys to dealing with being human:
· Cut yourself some slack—if you were a robot then all your problems would be solved with a new microchip or a good reprogramming.
· Cut others even more slack—if we all have to jump in the pool and splash around in the muck, you do too! Forgiveness is a two-way street.
· When in doubt, send flowers—or at least send love. Some people take longer to heal, are more sensitive, need time to get over whatever you did to make them so upset with you.
· Learn from it—what’s the sense of being in the doghouse, groveling your way out, mending that fence you almost destroyed, if you just go back and do it again? Messing up can build more character than succeeding, at times.
· Watch this video:
I’m not saying that you should not always strive to do your best, just don’t take yourself too seriously. Perfectionists are some of the most miserable people on the planet. While, when you think about it, children are some of the happiest. Why do you think that is? Kids are always messing up, making mistakes, doing something they shouldn’t be doing. Yet, most of them, look at these childhood blunders as part of growing up, and learn from them. And youngsters are also some of the most forgiving creatures around, save for puppies.
“If you are not making mistakes, you are not trying, and if you are not trying you are not living.”
· Learn from it
· Improve self
· Value the experience
· Earn back trust
Every day in every way.
Until next time…